I want you to imagine something with me for a moment. Imagine you’re parked at the gas pumps outside the supermarket. You look over at the car on the other side of your pump. You see a mom, looking rather frazzled, messy bun hair, probably a stain or two on her shirt, getting out to pump gas. In the back seat are two kids. One is strapped into a forward facing booster seat, looking angry and screaming “mama” repeatedly, getting loud with each scream. The other child is older but is wailing in an all out tantrum that would rival most 3 year olds. He is crying as if someone has broken both his ankles Misery style. Then you glance to the front passenger seat to see a man, presumably the father and/or husband. It looks like he is doing nothing at all from where you stand. Now, be honest. What would be your first thought? Would you wonder why the man of the family isn’t the one pumping gas? Would you think both children need a good old fashioned spanking? Would you judge that mom for...